Hello Parents, Jesse LeBeau here, your go-to motivational speaker for teenagers!
Today, let’s delve into an intimate topic that may sometimes feel a bit challenging – Vulnerability and Authenticity as powerful tools in helping our teenagers. I recently had a heartfelt conversation with Coach Lindsey Gray, a cognitive behavior therapist and an expert in 1 on 1 teen coaching sessions. Lindsey openly shared her story, revealing the strength in authenticity and vulnerability.
According to her, being open, honest, and transparent is a crucial component of her successful coaching approach, enabling her to build trust and form deep connections with teenagers.
So, why is it so pivotal for teens to have a mentor who walks this path of vulnerability and authenticity?
Here are the top five reasons:
1. Fosters Trust: When a mentor shows their vulnerable side, it shows the teenager that it’s okay to be open about their feelings too.
2. Encourages Open Communication: An authentic mentor encourages teens to express themselves without fear of judgment.
3. Builds Emotional Intelligence: By displaying their emotions, mentors teach teens to do the same – a key aspect of emotional maturity.
4. Shows Perfection Isn’t Necessary: Vulnerability conveys that no one has to be flawless – we all make mistakes, and that’s perfectly okay.
5. Leads by Example: Authenticity in a mentor encourages teens to be their genuine selves, fostering personal integrity.
So, how can you, as parents, embody these vital traits?
1. Share Your Stories: Talk about your successes, but don’t shy away from discussing your failures and how you learnt from them.
2. Encourage Two-Way Communication: Always encourage your teen to express their emotions and thoughts without fear.
3. Display Your Emotions: Letting your guard down and showing your emotions is not a sign of weakness. It’s an opportunity to demonstrate healthy coping mechanisms.
4. Show Acceptance: Your teen’s thoughts and feelings are valid – communicate this to them.
5. Be Genuine: Be yourself and encourage your teenager to do the same. Nothing breeds trust and respect more than authenticity.
As we all navigate our own parenting journeys, remember – vulnerability isn’t a weakness, it’s a strength. And in that strength, we can better guide our teenagers as they navigate their path to adulthood. Keep tuning in for more insights and honest conversations.
Remember, to offer yourself grace, parenting is hard work and you are doing great!